We still have several prizes left- so the Summer Giveaway has been extended to July 5th. If you know of a blended family who would benefit from one of these prizes- encourage them to register for the event at http://www.BlendedFamilyAdvice.com/SummerGiveaway
Here are the great prizes we still have:
Background Check -Experience the freedom of feeling SAFE about your date. CheckoutADate.com provides you with background checks that give you the confidence you need in dating.- ($29.95 value)
Understanding my Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder - A children's story explaining the symptoms of ADHD to facilitate awareness of the disorder and how it affects them by Kara Tamanini
Does Your Church Connect with Blended Families? - Get the details on how to CONNECT blended families to the church- by Dr. Shane Stutzman.
PC for Peewees is a reference guide with practical ways to support toddlers learning with the use of computers- by Nicole Taylor.
Single Dad Journal, Document your experience as a single dad—life with the kids, mistakes you’ve made, lessons you’ve learned and things you can pass on to other dads. It will be a cathartic experience that will help you make life happen again. donated by RJ Jaramillo of SingleDad.com
Send in your blended family poem or photo today!
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Blended Family Summer Giveaway
We still have some great prizes left in the Blended Family Summer Giveaway. Just sent a poem or photo to register. Details at http://www.blendedfamilyadvice.com/summergiveaway
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Biological Mom has traits of narcissism and antisocial behavior- what to do?
Mom asks- I’m a stepmom to a 4 ½ year old boy and biological mom to a 17-month girl. Biological mom of son alienates and has many behaviors of narcissism/antisocial. How do we handle this?
Shirley Cress Dudley responds:
It’s hard enough to deal with the “other” parents in a blended family- much less when a parent has a possible personality disorder. Here are some tips that may help.
Don’t take her attacks and negative comments personally
Respond to her when you are calm and can look at the situation objectively. Don’t respond to any emotional comments or attacks. You don’t have to pick up the telephone every time she calls or respond immediately when she sends you a text. Take time to settle down and figure out if this is a message you need to respond to, or should ignore.
Focus on the child and his well-being
Respond only to issues concerning your stepson. Ignore anything non-related to him.
Speak positively about the other parent around your stepson
I know it’s difficult, but set the right example and speak positively about his biological mom. You may say, “I know your mom wants what’s best for you, so we’re going to talk as adults and get this figured out.”
Do the Right Thing
Keep your focus on doing what’s right for your stepson and your family. Work together as a team with your spouse. Continue to speak positively to the biological mom, stating that everyone wants what’s best for the children and you appreciate her working with you to make this happen. Keep your expectations up and continue to guide her to a healthier co-parenting relationship.
For more information, read Chapter Six of Blended Family Advice.
Shirley Cress Dudley responds:
It’s hard enough to deal with the “other” parents in a blended family- much less when a parent has a possible personality disorder. Here are some tips that may help.
Don’t take her attacks and negative comments personally
Respond to her when you are calm and can look at the situation objectively. Don’t respond to any emotional comments or attacks. You don’t have to pick up the telephone every time she calls or respond immediately when she sends you a text. Take time to settle down and figure out if this is a message you need to respond to, or should ignore.
Focus on the child and his well-being
Respond only to issues concerning your stepson. Ignore anything non-related to him.
Speak positively about the other parent around your stepson
I know it’s difficult, but set the right example and speak positively about his biological mom. You may say, “I know your mom wants what’s best for you, so we’re going to talk as adults and get this figured out.”
Do the Right Thing
Keep your focus on doing what’s right for your stepson and your family. Work together as a team with your spouse. Continue to speak positively to the biological mom, stating that everyone wants what’s best for the children and you appreciate her working with you to make this happen. Keep your expectations up and continue to guide her to a healthier co-parenting relationship.
For more information, read Chapter Six of Blended Family Advice.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
More Blended Family Prizes to Give Away!
Thank you for those who have sent in your blended family photos and poems. I hear we have someone working on a video to send in- but it's not quite ready yet!
We have some amazing things to give away- here's the current Prize list (more keep coming in!)
Blended Family Advice: Tips to help stepmoms and stepdads with the everyday struggles of blending a family- By Shirley Cress Dudley
3 Reports: 52 Fun Things to Do with your Blended Family for under $25, Blended Family Vacations, Financial Planner for the Blended Family- By Shirley Cress Dudley
The Package Deal: "My (not-so) Glamorous Transition from Single Gal to Instant Mom"- by Izzy Rose
From My Mamma's Kitchen: A dash of this, a smidgeon of that, and a pinch of motherly love from my 9 moms. "Food for the soul, recipes for living"-By Johnny Tan
Background Check -Experience the freedom of feeling SAFE about your date. CheckoutADate.com provides you with background checks that give you the confidence you need in dating.- ($29.95 value)
Understanding my Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder - A children's story explaining the symptoms of ADHD to facilitate awareness of the disorder and how it affects them by Kara Tamanini
One Hour Parent Coaching Session- by Susan Tracy, founder of the Learning Together Parent Education Center.
Does Your Church Connect with Blended Families? - Get the details on how to CONNECT blended families to the church- by Dr. Shane Stutzman.
Bag of Avon Goodies- donated by Sandra Knollman, co-founder of Autism 4 Families, and is currently compiling a book of essays and poems about families with children with autism spectrum disorder. Sandra will be opening an autism resource center in the Greater Cincinnati/Northern KY area in the near future.
PC for Peewees is a reference guide with practical ways to support toddlers learning with the use of computers- by Nicole Taylor.
Signing Families DVD- Baby, Toddler and Preschool Sign Language. This special DVD was made for parents, educators, and caregivers to learn sign language and teach their young child or special needs child sign language-by Louise Masin Sattler and friends.
Single Dad Journal, Document your experience as a single dad—life with the kids, mistakes you’ve made, lessons you’ve learned and things you can pass on to other dads. It will be a cathartic experience that will help you make life happen again. donated by RJ Jaramillo of SingleDad.com
To register for the drawing, go to www.BlendedFamilyAdvice.com/SummerGetaway
The next drawing is June 7th-Good luck!
Shirley
We have some amazing things to give away- here's the current Prize list (more keep coming in!)
Blended Family Advice: Tips to help stepmoms and stepdads with the everyday struggles of blending a family- By Shirley Cress Dudley
3 Reports: 52 Fun Things to Do with your Blended Family for under $25, Blended Family Vacations, Financial Planner for the Blended Family- By Shirley Cress Dudley
The Package Deal: "My (not-so) Glamorous Transition from Single Gal to Instant Mom"- by Izzy Rose
From My Mamma's Kitchen: A dash of this, a smidgeon of that, and a pinch of motherly love from my 9 moms. "Food for the soul, recipes for living"-By Johnny Tan
Background Check -Experience the freedom of feeling SAFE about your date. CheckoutADate.com provides you with background checks that give you the confidence you need in dating.- ($29.95 value)
Understanding my Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder - A children's story explaining the symptoms of ADHD to facilitate awareness of the disorder and how it affects them by Kara Tamanini
One Hour Parent Coaching Session- by Susan Tracy, founder of the Learning Together Parent Education Center.
Does Your Church Connect with Blended Families? - Get the details on how to CONNECT blended families to the church- by Dr. Shane Stutzman.
Bag of Avon Goodies- donated by Sandra Knollman, co-founder of Autism 4 Families, and is currently compiling a book of essays and poems about families with children with autism spectrum disorder. Sandra will be opening an autism resource center in the Greater Cincinnati/Northern KY area in the near future.
PC for Peewees is a reference guide with practical ways to support toddlers learning with the use of computers- by Nicole Taylor.
Signing Families DVD- Baby, Toddler and Preschool Sign Language. This special DVD was made for parents, educators, and caregivers to learn sign language and teach their young child or special needs child sign language-by Louise Masin Sattler and friends.
Single Dad Journal, Document your experience as a single dad—life with the kids, mistakes you’ve made, lessons you’ve learned and things you can pass on to other dads. It will be a cathartic experience that will help you make life happen again. donated by RJ Jaramillo of SingleDad.com
To register for the drawing, go to www.BlendedFamilyAdvice.com/SummerGetaway
The next drawing is June 7th-Good luck!
Shirley
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